Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Finding your purpose

A little Vlog post here about a topic that comes up a great deal these days in readings. "Finding your purpose"  is not as complicated as some gurus and costly coaches would have you believe. I have found that for many of us it is present in a lot of what we are already doing. There's some work at times in untangling it from our life scripts - which we can learn to identify and change - or it is sometimes buried under our other circumstantial struggles but there's glimpses of it we can begin to see right here and now.
In spending some time away from the city recently, in an area full of nature and history I've been doing some reflecting on this. In most instances our grandparents didn't have this dichotomy, they lived with a true sense of purpose. For many purpose was simply survival and looking after what they could. Nowadays along with purpose we hear another buzz word "entitlement". These things get complicated and we often think we have a very daunting task to "connect with our authentic self" (there's some more buzz words). I believe, as I mention in the video, that if you want to know your purpose it is there on your kindergarten report card. It's what got you a gold star for sharing. It's what your friends appreciate about you and  it's also what gets you in trouble when you put it in the wrong place.
One of the problems with so many of these life coachey things like "The Secret" is that people often turn to these resources because they are finding their lives (and selves) unacceptable and want escape. It's good to want improvement but it has to begin where we are. When you begin with you - warts and insecurities and all -and see those things as a key to compassion for yourself and others, you find a great starting point for creativity, passion and that gets you somewhere starting from the present. Without that willing recognition though, however great the book, teacher or program is, it will sit half read or undone.
There's a lot of great stuff out there that's free or reasonably priced on how to wake up. There's some great practitioners, teachers and mentors that are ethical and that can be very helpful. At the same time from another perspective I HIGHLY recommend checking out the following  article online at Bitch Media  called "Eat Pray Spend" as it talks about the downside of some life change programs that don't really offer a lot of substance. Personally as both  a practitioner and a fellow seeker it's important to question, challenge and take my own medicine. I am blessed to have friends on the path that teach me through sharing and keep me in line.